"I'm slow" I tell him. "It takes me time to process things"
"Oh come on" he says.
"Really" I say. "You always want to have serious discussions when we are walking. But the stuff you tell me only sinks in a few hours later, when I'm already back home. I'm slow. I'm no good at on the spot debates."
A while later he tries to tell me a joke. I guess the ending while he's half way through.
"And you say you're slow. You always know what I'm going to say before I've even said it", he teases me.
It's true, I do have an annoying tendency of completing people's sentences for them.
"Ok, I'm not slow when it comes to understanding" I admit "It's only when it comes to feelings, opinions. Then I need to let in sink it before I can respond. I'm a bad arguer too. By the time I realize I'm upset, a good few hours have passed, it's all over. So I just get over it."
He was clearly unconvinced.
I think I've discovered the secret to my slowness.
It turns out the difference between extroverts and introverts isn't about being sociable, it's about how they think. Extroverts get their energy from the crowd; introverts get their energy from the quiet times. Extroverts process information while they are talking; the social interaction is what inspires them, what gives them the fuel to get going. While introverts can be equally friendly, but the time they actually think, analyze, understand, is when they are alone. They need to internalize in the peace.
Whoa, I am so an introvert.
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