Eating on Shidduch dates

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Of all the unwritten rules floating around charedi society, this has got to be the one that does the most to make my life a misery.
Why can't I eat on a shidduch date?!
Did you know that sharing a meal with a guy is practically equivalent, to , well, sharing a bed with him?
Apparently eating is an intimate, bonding experience.
Sigh.
And here was me wanting to eat because I'm hungry. Been out at work all day, smeared on fresh makeup, stripped and dressed up in my sexiest tznius clothes (is that an oxymoron?) in one smooth motion, and run out of the house to sit in a cafe, surrounded by food, and sip a coke.
Yeah, sip a coke. For three hours. Till midnight! If I was in a desert island I guess I could survice. But in a restaurant?!
I know, I know, Charedi guys learn in Yeshiva. They don't have cash. Their dads are probably rabbis, so they are rock bottom broke also.
So what? I'll pay!
But I can't pay, won't work, no self respecting black hatter will let a BY girl pay..way too feminist..
Let's look on the bright side, if a girl isn't skinny when she enters the shidduch scene, I guarantee she'll be a walking broomstick after a couple of months of dating! Unless she does what I do, and fresses on post-date-pizza in Center 1.

Comments

  1. Jacob Da JewFebruary 26, 2008 at 2:55 AM

    So why go out with these kinda guys?

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  2. Frum N' FlippingFebruary 26, 2008 at 10:38 PM

    It's not their fault ,it's the way thing are here. I decided I want to be charedi, so I go out with charedi guys. Any better ideas?

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  3. BarryMarch 12, 2008 at 6:27 PM

    Are you a girl? It seems so. Can we go out? I would go out with any girl willing to pay for me- FREE FOOD!!!!!!!!!!!

    This is why I do not like dating- because I have to pay.

    http://frumsatire.net

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  4. Frum N' FlippingOctober 11, 2008 at 8:35 PM

    deal. if you'll pay for the flight to israel, I'll pay for the pizza.

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  5. AnonymousOctober 19, 2008 at 9:52 PM

    And I thought dates always involve eating. I am so out of the loop.

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  6. frum single femaleOctober 26, 2008 at 4:45 AM

    i think that its important to share a meal with someone on a date. you get to see their table manners.

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  7. Noodle BrainMay 31, 2009 at 7:18 AM

    Does sushi count?... I have had sushi on a first date.

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  8. AnonymousJune 23, 2009 at 5:19 AM

    It's Israel. They have these weird ideas out there... Hey, why don't you offer to take a guy out to eat on your next date? He might be pleasantly surprised.

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  9. i pitythefooJuly 16, 2009 at 9:10 AM

    I also hate that 'lets never make a mizonos on a date' situation! Be a mensch - buy me dinner!

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  10. Did somebody say pizza?September 22, 2009 at 2:29 AM

    "deal. if you'll pay for the flight to israel, I'll pay for the pizza."

    I'll take you up on that offer.

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  11. AnonymousJanuary 15, 2010 at 6:44 AM

    I've heard about this insanity among the yeshiva crowd of FFB's. I can tell you among the older, BT yeshiva people trying to find their second (or third!) mates, we eat. Period. Because watching how a man treats a waitress, eats his food and his general table manners says a lot about him.

    Hey,with the current problem of anorexia making its' way around the BY world, maybe it's a chesed!

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