I try not to be a typical newlywed. In fact, I never really liked newlyweds, caught up in their own little blissful worlds.
One common newlywed trait is matchmaking. And for newlywed bloggers- the complaining that goes with it. Suddenly singles are "pushy" and "picky" and "ungrateful" I swore never to switch roles quite so drastically, and I hope I'll stand by my word.
But yes, I am guilty of being a newlywed; of the type eager to make matches. And some things really do get me upset.
True fact - We don't know who we are going to marry until we marry them.
I have lots of different types of friends; some are loud, some are quiet, some are shark and some more easy going; basically every friend is different.
And that's normal. Most of us have more than one friend, and usually our friends are not identical.
In other words, we get on with all sorts of people.
So why, when it comes to dating, is there a perception that a girl can only date one type of person. And if a girl went out with a guy who's not exactly the same as you, then obviously you can't go out with her. Because "If she went out with Shimon she can't be right for me".
Clarification: She only dated Shimon, she didn't marry him. And it was a blind date at that. Maybe she dumped him after one date? And even if she didn't, even if she - shock-horror -dated him seriously, why does that rule her out for you?
Your friend Yitzy is friends with Shimon and with you. Why can't a girl go out with and get along with Shimon and with you? (Obviously not simultaneously)
I keep hearing the same line. "But she went out with him. She can't be right for me." Who knew drinking coca-cola with a guy boycotts a girl for life?
This is my first Shadchan rant. Sorry for crossing over to the dark side.
4 days ago